I want to let you in on a secret- I gained a little weight this year. I KNOW, RIGHT? The world is going to come crashing down any day now.
I’ve actually made a ton of progress in my body image over the past few years, and it helps that mainstream society is beginning to accept that pretty doesn’t have to equal skinny. I tend to dress in oversized pieces no matter what my weight is so gaining a little weight here and there doesn’t have a huge impact on my wardrobe. That being said, sometimes I’m intrigued by newer styles that aren’t necessarily “ideal” for my body type. I have a large chest, and the top half of my body is generally larger than my bottom half. For this reason, my wardrobe is a lot of skinny jeans and loose tops.
Not this time! I had sworn off the straight leg/boyfriend jean trend awhile back, but I accidentally tried on a pair during the Loft event I co-hosted a few weeks back. I couldn’t believe it, but I loved this pair. (I should know by now to always try Loft first since they’re so great if you have a curvy stomach/skinnier legs!) I’ve been wearing them a ton, including with oversized sweaters, tshirts, and boots. I was worried they wouldn’t emphasize the smallest part of me, but the proportions have actually been working.
Okay, how problematic is that last sentence? “Worried they wouldn’t emphasize the smallest part of me.” We’ve been told “how to dress” for so long that we get stuck in this idea you shouldn’t wear something if you’re not the ideal candidate. It causes us to back away from certain trends and hide our bodies for no legitimate reason. I decided to challenge my own internal dialogue with this outfit and pair the “not as flattering jeans” with a form-fitting body suit. Did it highlight some areas I don’t love to show off? Yep. Do I think it’s a great outfit? Yep!
This year, I challenge you to stop thinking about what you “can’t” wear and focus on how to wear what you love. Now, there’s one important distinction that I’ve talked about previously- wearing what you love also means wearing what makes you feel good! There are definitely styles I’ve loved in theory, but I don’t feel confident or good once they’re on. Truthfully, I think I still have some more work to do on the whole “embrace your shape” thing before I’d wear this outfit to certain events, but I’m having fun experimenting with looks I never thought I’d try. Isn’t that what fashion is all about anyway?
I think most women can relate to the trials and tribulations of weight fluctuation, and it can be a little daunting on your mental state. Personally, I did feel good a few pounds lighter, but I’m trying to focus on being healthy vs skinny. I’ve actually found it amazing the tricks my brain can play on me following a weekend where I worked out vs one where I didn’t. (Spoiler alert- you don’t gain 5 lbs in 2 days just from skipping your workout class.) I’m no expert on this stuff by any means, but let’s work together to create a new definition of beauty and fashion where wearing what you want is more important than wearing what you’re “supposed to,” okay?